Things to Avoid in Teenage Relationships

by Kim Pichardo ’25 and Khriz Lopez ’25

Poor Communication: One of the main things you should avoid in a relationship is poor communication/not communicating. If you don’t communicate at all with your partner that leads to many avoidable problems. It helps to know your partner’s needs and to of course express your needs and understanding.
Trying to control who you see and hang out with: Trusting partners should not try to keep their s/o from seeing or hanging with friends or harmless acquaintances. For example, things like “You’re not allowed to hang out with your friends anymore” is unacceptable.
Forgetting About Your Friends! You shouldn’t be leaving or giving up your friends for your partner, especially if they’re not pushing or ignoring boundaries in your relationship. Also if your significant other expects to give up friendships for them then that is just not right. I understand it if that friend is crossing lines and they won’t stop, but if your partner doesn’t allow you to let your friends co-exist then it’s not really healthy.
Keeping Secrets in Relationships- Secrets in relationships are rarely a good idea–as they inevitably come to the surface and sever trust between partners. Yes, your friends may tell you secrets that you feel compelled to keep—but always consider the feelings and impact on your partner.
Not Making Time for Each other: School work, jobs, sports, etc—being a teeanger comes with a lot of responsibilities. However it is essential to always make at least some time for each other no matter how busy you or your partner may be. In other words, make each other a priority! If both sides don’t make any time at all for each other, it may eventually lead to the end of the relationship .
Flirting With Others: Just don’t do this.